The difference is not by much. From the beginning of time when God created Adam, he made him from dirt or clay. When God created Eve, she was built and well designed by God from Adam's rib. God didn't give much thought about creating a man. God knew he needed a man who could be strong and take care of the world he created. So God had one thought about a man and that's how he was created. Women were designed. God had many thoughts about how a woman was created.
This is why in general men can't handle more than one thought or project at a time and women in general can multi-task. Now I say in general because there are those exceptions. Men when they feel pressured with too many things to do at once react very differently than a woman. Men either drops with they are doing and ignore and hope it will go away or they will disappear and so something that will take their mind away from the overload.
Women deal with these kinds of situations a little differently. They tackle everything all at once. If you read Proverbs 31 on women and what God thought a woman should be, you would understand why I say; they handle pressure well and deal with things head on.
The caves I refer to are gyms, hanging out with the guys, movies, bowling, biking, watching television or just taking a drive to nowhere. They do this to get their head cleared and try to figure out things out. They retreat away from the situation or problem - like hiding in a cave. If a man is given one project at a time, the task will be completed but when bombarded with too many things at once, they tend to lose focus and then nothing will get completed. Some project will probably get started but nothing will get completed.
My husband always told me he hated a “honey do list” because he didn't need to be told what to do. This is probably the way most men feel. The truth is men need theses lists both at home and at work. The lists give them a guideline of what needs to be accomplished first.
Ladies if you want your husband to do things around the house; do a honey do list not only for them but for yourself too. This shows that you will also be committed to doing some of the chores in the house. Don't get crazy - I'm not saying we don't do anything in the house already but husbands don't really see what we do as chores. Cleaning, cooking, washing etc are every day things - not chores. Until you put them on the list, they don't become chores. So make a list for yourself as well.
Once they compare your chores to the ones you've given them; they can react in different ways. My husband is very competitive so he will try to get everything done before I'm done with my list. Others will feel bad because they didn't realize how many things we did already around the house and they will offer to help with the stuff on your list.
Most importantly is to always set a time when all things should be completed. Make sure you give a reasonable amount of time for the items to be completed. If you want them to clean the garage and he works full-time - give 2 weeks for that chore. Giving a deadline, will push both of you to complete all the tasks on the list. The best part, the men will do lest retreating to their caves and feel more confident and proud because their tasks were completed.
Always, always tell them what a great job they did when they complete the task. They want to hear that from you.
Men are not as good at multi-tasking as we are because they have fewer connections between the left and right side of the brain. They can't think and feel at the same time.
We recently sold a house and moved. I thought about a ceremonial passing on of the Honey Do list - a list of things that never did get done in the 10 years that we lived there.